Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Summer Reading List for Kids

A family friend recently has asked me to compile a list of suggested reading material geared toward younger kids who enjoy reading--think maybe 8 through 13 years old. After each book or series, I'll include a brief description and any discretionary items parents should look into. If your child hasn't read any of these, I suggest you start at the top and work your way down: they're from least discretion necessary to most discretion necessary. I hope you find it useful!
                                                                                                                ~ 'ding2

(Oh, one last thing: I've realized these descriptions can make the books sound worse than they are, but I wanted to make sure you had a relatively conservative review.) 

  1. The Chronicles of Narnia by C. S. Lewis
    Most parents should know this one: it begins with a story about a girl who enters a wardrobe. I think this is perfectly okay for any reader who can understand this level of story. They sometimes tend toward thinly-veiled analogy in a way that I personally would not use, but this can be a great way to start spiritual conversations about more "theological" topics with your kids. One thing to note: some Christians might disagree with C. S. Lewis's take on salvation at the end of The Last Battle, so I'd check that out. This gets a bright green light.

  2. Roverandom by J. R. R. Tolkien
    A novella about a dog who gets turned into a toy. This is a relatively quick read, told in a more light-hearted style than Tolkien's more famous works. It features several wizards and a dragon, all of which take various roles in the story. Not one with a huge theme other than "be polite," but that doesn't detract from the delightful quirkiness. Unless my memory fails me, there aren't any parental discretionary items, so I give it a green light.


     
  3. The Redwall Series by Brian Jacques
    A series of twenty-three books about various swashbuckling rodents, nearly all of which feature a certain Abbey full of peaceful woodland creatures. I've read all of the books except for the twenty-third and final novel (though I hope to remedy that), and so I can pretty confidently give a good review to this. The main villain is nasty, but in the typical Red Queen, constantly-grouchy, cutting-off-everyone's-head sort of way. Villainous sidekicks are bumbling and stupid, and frequently resort to backbiting and griping. All good guys stay good guys, so no betrayal or selfishness there, though a common theme is rule-breaking that turns out for the best and so is rewarded. A few books lean a little bit darker--Marlfox, The Outcast of Redwall, and The Sable Quean are the first that come to mind--but most readers should be able to handle it. One last thing to note, however: in many of the later books, the bad guys tend to have a witch/soothsayer/fortune teller working for them, in case that is something you as parents are concerned about. Other than that, I give this one a green light.

  4. The Hobbit by J. R. R. Tolkien
    Perhaps Tolkien's single most famous book (remember, LOTR isn't one book, but three), about a hobbit, thirteen dwarves, a wizard, a dragon, and a magic ring. If you haven't read this yet and you're an adult, READ IT! A little more heady than Roverandom, but still very conversational in style, almost ready-made for family read-alouds, if you do that sort of thing. Highlights are an entertaining riddle sequence, banter between a dragon and an invisible thief, and the Battle of the Five Armies. There is death and violence, in case you think your child can't handle that, but mostly clean otherwise. I can't do anything but give this a green light.

  5. The Fablehaven Series by Brandon Mull
    Another entertaining series, and much lighter than Inkheart. It's about magical wildlife preserves (fauns, fairies, centaurs, you get the idea) and people who try to exploit them. Something to watch out for is that demons are featured. They're always bad guys, but they're still in the story, as is a portal to hell (though I can't remember if it's explicitly named as such). The bad guys are fairly nasty in a sometimes frightening way, the third book features something akin to a zombie apocalypse, while others have actual zombies. There's mind control, betrayal, magic, and war. It's honestly not as bad as it sounds, but I'd still check on it first, so it gets a yellow light.


     
  6. Percy Jackson and the Olympians by Rick Riordan
    Okay, so the deal with this one is, Percy's a demi-god, the Greek pantheon is real, and they are the good guys who control everything. Yes they're petty, but they're still in charge, and that's viewed as a good thing. I thought it was entertaining and well-written, and it has many redemptive themes. There are also several covert references to God (as an unknown god, the one in charge of the gods, etc.), but they aren't a heavy focus. The main theme of the series is that, yes there are superior beings, but they can't help you, and often they need your help; live life your way, because ultimately, you're not responsible to anyone. I'd give it a yellow light, but only because of its paganistic overtones.

  7. The Artemis Fowl Series by Eoin Colfer
    An imaginative series about high-tech fairies and a criminal mastermind who happens to be twelve. I very much enjoy this series, but it crosses the line into discretionary items. It's moderately seasoned with profanity, and the main character is a criminal (not exactly the best roll model). There is lots of hilarious dialogue, a bit of potty humour, and a cast of memorable characters, but it is more worldly than some other books. I'd give it a yellow light: read it first, parents.

  8. The Inheritance Cycle by Christopher Paolini
    Take Star Wars, give it a sword instead of a lightsaber, magic instead of the force, add dragons, and you get Eragon. The first book honestly does read like a medieval Star Wars, but Paolini's writing style and originality really pick up as the series progresses. It's a great story about using your abilities responsibly and finding your way in a changing world, and the vessel it uses to convey those messages is entertaining and engaging. It is heavy on violence, and gets slightly bloody in the later books. Some objects of concern include: sorcery, which is external magic (see the Harry Potter section), is set forth as merely dangerous, and in no way evil; there is a scene in Brisingr where a main character cuts herself repeatedly to demonstrate her courage and fortitude (this is also set forth as fine); there is mildly suggestive innuendo in Brisingr, though it should be over the kids' heads; a main character gets his fiancee pregnant out of wedlock, then rushes the wedding so as not to embarrass her. Some other concerns: one of the villains is very conflicted, and is introduced as a genuinely likeable character (possible roll model issues); with regards to the Empire that is set up as the villainous side of the conflict, it is implied that it is actually a fine government, and that the Emperor is the problem--however, the "good guys" are still trying to overthrow the Empire. It's a great story--well-written, engaging--but I'd still suggest parents read it first, so I give it a yellow light.

  9. The Inkheart Series by Cornelia Funke
    This is one of my favorite series of all time. That said, it also might be over many kids' heads. Definitely for the older end of the spectrum, with lots of tense family scenes, particularly nasty villains, and questionable role models. The basic premise is that there are people, called "Silvertongues," who can read characters out of books and into the real world. Unfortunately, when villains come out of a book, they stay villainous, and that can cause problems. Imaginative, amazingly descriptive, engrossing, and memorable, but definitely one to talk about. There's lots of violence, moderate profanity, and lying is repeatedly set forth as an approved course of action. A yellow light (for younger kids, maybe even a red light) goes to this one just because it's written for a more mature audience.

  10. The Harry Potter Series by J. K. Rowling
    Yes, I seriously just said that, but hear me out. This is probably the most controversial book series in Christian circles (though perhaps rivaled by the Twilight Saga), and I understand the position that says it's evil, I really do. However, I think that the witchcraft and magic forbidden in the Bible and the magic in Harry Potter are two very different things. I believe that there are two different forms of magic: internal magic, almost like an ability; and external magic, which is harnessing some powerful being for your control. Internal magic is completely fictionalized, and is in other great stories, like The Lord of the Rings and The Chronicles of Narnia. External magic, however, is a very real form of magic, and takes place in Satanic cults and primitive tribes even today: this is the type of magic that is forbidden in Scripture. It also appears in many kid's movies--such as Disney's Aladdin, which suggests that the enslavement of the powerful genie is a good thing as long as you have good motives. However, this IS NOT the type of magic that appears in Harry Potter. In Harry Potter, magic is something that you are born with. There is a very clear line drawn between magical and non-magical people (or Muggles, as Rowling names them) in the books, and Rowling actually uses this theme to make significant commentary on modern discrimination. The only form of external magic that occurs in Harry Potter is potion-brewing, although even that is only questionably problematic. All characters use internal magic in the form of spells (or incantations that release power that is already inside the character--a practice similar to calling upon the power of the Holy Spirit, I might add), and so another major theme developed in the story is the responsible use of power you have been given. I'm not trying to tell you that your decision is wrong, but I urge parents to at least read it before you completely write it off as evil.
    Now, for those for whom the magic is not an issue, here are other concerns: rule-breaking is often condoned in the story, based on an ends-justify-the-means mentality; there are both bullying and nasty authority figures in the early stories; there is lots and lots of violence in the later books (beginning in number four and escalating drastically in numbers five and six--seven is definitely heavy action and violence); there are a number of deaths of good characters, prompting Harry to significant struggles over the meaning of life and death; the villain is extremely prejudiced and very awful--there are no redeeming factors for him; there are questions of duty and bravery; there is lots of betrayal and cowardice; and there is a significant Messianic parallel in the last book. If you plan on allowing this book and your child is younger, I'd only go with the first one. The second and third ones are okay, but the second gets pretty dark, and the third starts to introduce the overarching conflict of the last four books. For older kids, it's at the parents' discretion--'ding4 read them, and she's eleven, but she's a pretty mature reader, so again, your discretion. I give these a yellow light, edging close to a red light. Again, I strongly encourage you to READ THEM FIRST, before you give your kids the go-ahead.

Narcissism, Anyone?

Okay, so... Honestly, I like to talk about myself. I tend to be able to restrain my enthusiasm in this area most times, but right now, I figured you might as well get to know me a little better since you're reading my blog. I kind of feel like I've done a post like this before, but I can't find it on my blog, so please bear with me if I'm repeating myself (and send me a link to that post, so I can find it). Please do not think that I am being arrogant! As with everyone, I can be really awesome, and I can also be a really big jerk. This might seem like a really long post, but that's just because I copied and pasted the ENFP description from this website.

My personality type: ENFP
Extraverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving 

The professionals' take:
ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.
ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.
An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.
Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.
Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members.
An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.
ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.
ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.
Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.
ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing.
Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.
ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through. 


My love languages: Quality Time & Words of Affirmation

'ding2's Take: 
I am a people person. What you think of me is really important to me, and I like to feel liked. I tend to be comfortable around people quite easily, but I have trust issues that can keep me distant on the inside until I feel "safe" around them. Because I make friends so easily, it's difficult for me to really bond with you unless I spend a lot of time with you. That's pretty much my primary way of getting to know people: by just hanging out. Chatting, spending time together, trading jokes, laughing--all of those are huge ways I get closer to people. Because of that, I can feel like really close friends with someone I spent time with at a retreat, or during a missions trip. I view the roommates I have on weekend or week-long trips as among some of my best friends; that's just my gut-level feeling coming out of a trip like that. Things that really hurt me are when people act like they don't want to spend time with me, when people say mean things about me behind my back, or when people demonstrate that they're disappointed in me, whether through words or body language. That's another big thing about me: I rarely listen to your words so much as reading things off of body language or tone of voice. If you ask me what I was doing, but you have your arms folded and your voice is a little forceful, I'll immediately throw up my shields and turn my guns on you, because that feels like an attack. That's the last huge thing you should know: I AM DEFENSIVE! All day, everyday, if I don't feel like I'm good enough or valuable enough, I get frantic and start taking it out on the people around me. I don't mean to be hurtful, but I'm good with words, and I have several times reduced people to tears when I've gotten defensive. I tend to bear a grudge, but I've really started lifting that up to God; by His help, I am getting much better at letting things go and realizing that they don't really matter that much. So basically, I have sensitive feelings, but don't let that get in the way of you saying what you think is true. Just please say it in such a way that it doesn't feel like an attack. And hang out with me! Pretty soon I'll think you're the bomb.

Sunday, June 24, 2012

An Illustration

This summer, I have the opportunity to work at the Williamsburg Christian Retreat Center as a junior counselor for their Kaleidoscope Summer Camp. This last week was summer staff training, and part of our daily schedule was a worship time led by the head counselors. On either Thursday or Friday (I can't remember which, although I want to say it was Thursday), one of the head counselors had a challenge: to worship God through means other than just singing songs. More specifically, he wanted us to read a scripture passage and then write or draw something that glorified our Father.

A habit I have when I don't have a specific verse in mind is to just let the Bible fall randomly open, and trust that God will guide me to the verse I should meditate on. In this situation, I opened to Isaiah 40; I read the entire chapter, but I'd like to focus on verses 9-31 (this is from the ESV):


Get you up to a high mountain,
    O Zion, herald of good news;
lift up your voice with strength,
    O Jerusalem, herald of good news;
    lift it up, fear not;
say to the cities of Judah,
    “Behold your God!” 
Behold, the Lord God comes with might,
    and his arm rules for him;
behold, his reward is with him,
    and his recompense before him. 
He will tend his flock like a shepherd;
     he will gather the lambs in his arms;
he will carry them in his bosom,
    and gently lead those that are with young.
Who has measured the waters in the hollow of his hand
    and marked off the heavens with a span,
enclosed the dust of the earth in a measure
    and weighed the mountains in scales
    and the hills in a balance?
Who has measured the Spirit of the Lord,
    or what man shows him his counsel?
Whom did he consult,
    and who made him understand?
Who taught him the path of justice,
    and taught him knowledge,
    and showed him the way of understanding?
Behold, the nations are like a drop from a bucket,
    and are accounted as the dust on the scales;
    behold, he takes up the coastlands like fine dust.
Lebanon would not suffice for fuel,
    nor are its beasts enough for a burnt offering.
All the nations are as nothing before him,
    they are accounted by him as less than nothing and emptiness.
To whom then will you liken God,
     or what likeness compare with him?
An idol! A craftsman casts it,
    and a goldsmith overlays it with gold
    and casts for it silver chains.
He who is too impoverished for an offering
    chooses wood that will not rot;
he seeks out a skilful craftsman
    to set up an idol that will not move.
Do you not know? Do you not hear?
    Has it not been told you from the beginning?
    Have you not understood from the foundations of the earth?
It is he who sits above the circle of the earth,
    and its inhabitants are like grasshoppers;
who stretches out the heavens like a curtain,
    and spreads them like a tent to dwell in;
who brings princes to nothing,
    and makes the rulers of the earth as emptiness.
Scarcely are they planted, scarcely sown,
    scarcely has their stem taken root in the earth,
when he blows on them, and they wither,
     and the tempest carries them off like stubble.
To whom then will you compare me,
    that I should be like him? says the Holy One.
Lift up your eyes on high and see:
    who created these?
He who brings out their host by number,
    calling them all by name,
by the greatness of his might,
    and because he is strong in power
    not one is missing.
Why do you say, O Jacob,
    and speak, O Israel,
“My way is hidden from the Lord,
     and my right is disregarded by my God”?
Have you not known? Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
    the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He does not faint or grow weary;
     his understanding is unsearchable.
He gives power to the faint,
    and to him who has no might he increases strength.
Even youths shall faint and be weary,
    and young men shall fall exhausted;
but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;
    they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
    they shall walk and not faint.

I stand before a door, trembling and fearful. Before me is a gate of pure radiance, not made of gold, but of every good and perfect gift I have ever experienced on this earth. Beyond the door lies the object of my worship, the sum of all my dreams, the antidote for all of my poisonous nightmares. But how can I enter? I feel unbearably dirty, filthy beyond the ability to bear it. Who am I, that this greatest of all joys, this most blessed source of all blessings, should allow me into His presence? I turn to walk away, but instead find myself rooted to the spot: I cannot move away from the door--only toward it. I lay my hand on the gate and give it a gentle push, but it does not move. I push more firmly, but still the barrier is unyielding. I place my shoulder against the door, straining with all my might. My muscles protest, but I must get past! Finally, my body gives out and I fall to the ground, broken, weeping. How can I possibly reach my Father when such an obstacle stands in the way? I feel utterly alone; abandoned and forsaken.
But then I feel a hand on my shoulder. I look up. A man stands over me, clothed in the same radiant brilliance that makes up the door. I cannot see His face, obscured by the light, but I can tell that He is weeping. He takes off His robe and helps me to my feet, placing the glorious garment about my shoulders. I look down at myself, awed by this gift. Then I look up: He is just a man, filthy and unattractive, the same way I am. As I watch, He steps up to the door. A flame reaches out and consumes Him. I try to stop it, but it is too late; He is already gone.
I approach the door again, and this time it opens. I enter into the throne room of my God. There He is, too brilliant to be seen. And at His side is His Son the man destroyed by the door that it might open for me, shining more brilliantly than a star.
He holds out His hand to me, and as I take it, unspeakable joy floods my soul. He folds me in His arms, and as He embraces me, He whispers in my ear: "Well done, good and faithful servant; enter into the joy of your Master."

Sidle

Dance across the tightrope long,
Tipsy from the height
Pose before the big cameras,
As a model might
Leave your bedroom door ajar,
Let the cold air in
Give a little squeal of joy
Every time you win

It's not about the way you look
As long as you know the game
You can't find it in a book
The way to glide along
I'll teach you how to be yourself
Despite your pressuring friends
So take yourself back off the shelf
And slip out of your chains

Sidle down the narrow path,
Leave it all behind
You don't need to look away,
You weren't created blind
Give yourself a summer break
Just forget to work
Remember that the greatest joys
'Round the corner lurk